{"id":1050,"date":"2020-06-06T19:31:11","date_gmt":"2020-06-06T18:31:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/knfsh.al\/?p=1050"},"modified":"2020-06-06T19:31:50","modified_gmt":"2020-06-06T18:31:50","slug":"in-memoriam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/knfsh.al\/en\/in-memoriam\/","title":{"rendered":"In memoriam"},"content":{"rendered":"

Homeli n\u00eb funeralin e dy v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve t\u00eb vrar\u00eb n\u00eb Gramz\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Mons. George Frendo O.P.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vdekja \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb lajm i keq, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht kur \u00ebsht\u00eb vdekja e nj\u00eb personi q\u00eb e kishim m\u00eb af\u00ebr: an\u00ebtar i familjes apo nj\u00eb mik i ngusht\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb lajm m\u00eb i keq kur \u00ebsht\u00eb vdekja e nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb ri n\u00eb mosh\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb lajm edhe m\u00eb i keq kur \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vdekje e papritmas, si kur ai person ka pasur nj\u00eb aksident ose nj\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsi tjet\u00ebr. Por \u00ebsht\u00eb lajm tmerr\u00ebsisht i keq kur \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vrasje. Madje k\u00ebtu sot kemi jo nj\u00eb, por dy persona t\u00eb vrar\u00eb.
\nK\u00ebto shtat\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb fundit kan\u00eb qen\u00eb shtat\u00eb dit\u00eb tmerri. Para nj\u00eb jave n\u00eb La\u00e7 jan\u00eb vrar\u00eb dy burra. Para pes\u00eb dit\u00ebve kemi d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb moshuar dhe tre t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb abuzuar seksualisht me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb minorene. Pardje jan\u00eb vrar\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend shum\u00eb af\u00ebr k\u00ebsaj kishe, k\u00ebta dy v\u00ebllez\u00ebr, Gazmendin dhe Xhontil. Gazmendin nuk e kam njohur, por Xhontilin e kam njohur p\u00ebr k\u00ebta gjasht\u00eb vitet e fundit. Hera e fundit q\u00eb ka qen\u00eb tek un\u00eb ishte vet\u00ebm para pes\u00eb jav\u00ebsh.
\nNuk do t\u00eb flas p\u00ebr viktimat e k\u00ebtij krimi shum\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuar. E di se disa gazetar\u00eb jan\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur ta z\u00ebvend\u00ebsojn\u00eb Zotin duke interpretuar kushtet e nj\u00eb ngjarjeje p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk ishin t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm dhe duke gjykuar dhe keqinterpretuar viktimat. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht p\u00ebr disa persona shpifja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebkat, madje \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb virtyt.
\nPor, po p\u00ebrfitoj nga rasti p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb disa reflektime t\u00eb dobishme p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme. Sepse jemi t\u00eb zhytur n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri lajkatare, nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri ku seksi dhe dhuna kan\u00eb marr\u00eb p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi mbi \u00e7do vler\u00eb morale dhe familjare, nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb ka humbur drejtimin dhe vlerat q\u00eb japin dinjitet jet\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore.
\nN\u00eb vitin 1992 n\u00eb Angli ka ndodhur nj\u00eb krim q\u00eb tronditi gjith\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb angleze: nj\u00eb djal\u00eb dy vje\u00e7ar u vra n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb barbare. E kush ishin vras\u00ebsit? Dy djem dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar. Lexova nj\u00eb artikull shum\u00eb interesant n\u00eb revist\u00ebn serioze Tablet i shkruar nga nj\u00eb psikologe: \u201cSi mund nj\u00eb djal\u00eb dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar t\u00eb b\u00ebhet vras\u00ebs?\u201d Pak koh\u00eb pas vrasjes, Kardinali Basil Hume dhe Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, dy z\u00ebra \u201cprofetik\u00eb\u201d t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb angleze t\u00eb asaj kohe, k\u00ebrkuan ngritjen e nj\u00eb komisioni mbret\u00ebror p\u00ebr t\u00eb hetuar mbi shkaqet e dhun\u00ebs s\u00eb k\u00ebsaj shoq\u00ebrie. Por k\u00ebrkesa e tyre u injorua. N\u00eb nj\u00eb intervist\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb gazet\u00ebs The Independant t\u00eb Londr\u00ebs, Kardinali Basil Hume, duke p\u00ebrmendur k\u00ebt\u00eb vrasje, komenton: \u201cNj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e cila papritur sheh veten e saj n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb dhe nuk i p\u00eblqen \u00e7ka sheh n\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb, ose do t\u2019i ngrej\u00eb supet dhe largohet, ose q\u00ebndron p\u00ebr t\u00eb pyetur veten: Pse?\u201d
\nPardje n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb protest\u00eb kund\u00ebr abuzimit seksual me t\u00eb miturit. Sinqerisht rrefej se me vjen shum\u00ebkeq se nuk kam qen\u00eb edhe un\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb protest\u00eb. Ishte rast jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar solidaritet me viktimen, por edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur vendosmerin\u00eb ton\u00eb q\u00eb duam ta mbrojm\u00eb dinjitetin e vajzave tona. Vajzat tona nuk jane nj\u00eb loder. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb person me nj\u00eb dinjitet t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb dhe t\u00eb pazevend\u00ebsueshme. Por p\u00ebrball\u00eb abuzimeve dhe krimeve t\u00eb m\u00ebdha q\u00eb po ndodhin n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqemi me protestat, duke k\u00ebrkuar cilat persona ose institucionet do t\u00eb akuzojm\u00eb si shkaktar\u00ebt e k\u00ebtyre krimeve. M\u00eb shum\u00eb duhet t\u00eb pyesim: Pse? Pse po ndodhin k\u00ebto krime? Dhe \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb ne p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndaluar k\u00ebto krime? Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb tragjedia e madhe e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb sotme: sepse nuk ka guximin dhe ndershm\u00ebrin\u00eb t\u00eb pyes\u00eb veten: \u201cPse?\u201d Ekziston nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb frike n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pyetje e pap\u00eblqyeshme. \u00cbsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht frika nga p\u00ebrgjigja e k\u00ebsaj pyetje. Dhe kur nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri nuk k\u00ebrkon Pse-n\u00eb e plag\u00ebve t\u00eb saj, kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ajo nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet nga k\u00ebto plag\u00eb. Cilat jan\u00eb shkaqet e k\u00ebsaj dekadence morale n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri? Nj\u00eb rritje e tmerrshme n\u00eb krim: vrasje, vetvrasje, vjedhje, dhun\u00eb fizike, abuzime seksuale, droga\u2026 A guxojm\u00eb t\u00eb pyesim p\u00ebr shkaqet?
\nDuke pasur parasysh abuzimet seksuale edhe me t\u00eb miturit, a kuptojm\u00eb rolin negativ t\u00eb pornografis\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur jo vet\u00ebm n\u00eb kinema, por edhe n\u00eb televizor, n\u00eb internet, n\u00eb facebook, edhe n\u00eb gazetat e p\u00ebrditshme? Ka gazeta q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb b\u00ebhen m\u00eb popullore duke prezantuar vajzat sexy, t\u00eb zhveshur.
\nMjetet e komunikimit paraqesin modele t\u00eb reja p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn. Nuk jan\u00eb shenjt\u00ebrit, as mendimtar\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj, as heronjt\u00eb. Jan\u00eb personat e ekranit, t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e t\u00eb rejat q\u00eb shihen n\u00eb \u201cBig Brother\u201d, vajzat dhe djemt\u00eb sexy. Nd\u00ebrsa krishterimi na paraqet modele t\u00eb ndryshme, njer\u00ebz q\u00eb kan\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, kan\u00eb jetuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, disa kan\u00eb edhe vdekur p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn.
\nPor duke pasur n\u00eb mesin ton\u00eb kufomat e dy v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve t\u00eb vrar\u00eb, le t\u00eb pyesim: Kaq vler\u00ebsohet jeta njer\u00ebzore, saq\u00ebnjeriu vritet leht\u00ebsisht kinse ishte nj\u00eb miz\u00eb? Kan\u00eb ndodhur vrasje p\u00ebr arsye m\u00eb banale. P\u00ebr tre muaj kemi b\u00ebr\u00eb kaq shum\u00eb sakrifica p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar infektimin me koronavirusin, kemi sakrifikuar edhe kremtimet e meshave n\u00eb kishat tona, sepse kemi vler\u00ebsuar aq shum\u00eb jet\u00ebn njer\u00ebzore. Por \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar vrasjet, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur m\u00eb shum\u00eb jet\u00ebn njer\u00ebzore, p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar qytetar\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn njer\u00ebzore?
\nMos t\u00eb drejtojm\u00eb gishtin akuzues drejt personave t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. Le ta drejtojm\u00eb drejt vetvetes. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi fajtor\u00eb. \u00c7far\u00eb u kemi m\u00ebsuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb? T\u00eb shmangin shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e atyre q\u00eb n\u00eb i quajm\u00eb gabel, ose zezak, ose fshatar\u00eb, ose malok? I kemi m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb hakmerren? N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb i kemi formuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb? Po n\u00eb shkollat, i kemi m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb dallohen n\u00eb lendet shkollore, pa i formuar n\u00eb vlerat morale?
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb kriza e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb sotme: largimi nga Ai q\u00eb i dha njeriut nj\u00eb dinjitet t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb kur e krijoi n\u00eb p\u00ebrngjasimit t\u00eb vet. M\u00eb lejoni t\u00eb citoj fjal\u00ebt e Papa Palit VI, q\u00eb tha: \u201cNjeriu mund ta nd\u00ebrtoj\u00eb bot\u00ebn pa Zotin. Por n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast do ta nd\u00ebrtonte p\u00ebr shkat\u00ebrrimin e vet. Nj\u00eb humaniz\u00ebm i pavarur nga Zoti \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb humaniz\u00ebm \u00e7njer\u00ebzor.\u201d
\nDhe n\u00eb fund kam dy fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr ju, familjar\u00eb t\u00eb viktimave. S\u00eb pari: Sa shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz kan\u00eb ardhur sot p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb funeral! Sa shum\u00eb ju kan\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur fjal\u00ebt si: \u201cT\u00eb rroni vet\u00eb!\u201d \u201cNgush\u00ebllime!\u201d n\u00eb nj\u00eb rast tragjik si ky, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz tregojn\u00eb solidaritetin e tyre me ju. Por, le t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb: a ju ngush\u00ebllojn\u00eb fjal\u00ebt e tilla, duke p\u00ebsuar aq shum\u00eb dhimbje n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb tragjike? Jo. Un\u00eb them se vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb gj\u00eb mund t’ju ngush\u00eblloj\u00eb: feja juaj. Leximet q\u00eb keni d\u00ebgjuar ju tregojn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb ngush\u00ebllim t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.
\nS\u00eb dyti: Natyra jon\u00eb na shtyn p\u00ebr hakmarrje, por feja jon\u00eb p\u00ebr falje. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb fal\u00ebsh, madje \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Por Krishti na fton p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dashuri heroike, q\u00eb fal. Falja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr frikacak\u00ebt. Vet\u00ebm njeriu i fort\u00eb mund t\u00eb fal\u00eb. Jezusi na ka m\u00ebsuar si t\u00eb lutemi, dhe n\u00eb at\u00eb lutje q\u00eb na ka m\u00ebsuar na tha t\u00eb themi: \u201cNa i fal fajet tona si i falim ne fajtor\u00ebt tan\u00eb\u201d. Dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebsim Ai e ka forcuar me shembullin e vet. Fjala e par\u00eb q\u00eb Ai ka th\u00ebn\u00eb kur ishte n\u00eb kryq ishte: \u201cFali, o At\u00eb!\u201d Dhe vet\u00ebm pastaj tha: \u201cGjith\u00e7ka u krye\u201d. \u201cGjith\u00e7ka u krye\u201d, sepse jo vet\u00ebm kam kryer vullnetin t\u00ebnde, o At\u00eb, por edhe kam falur xhelat\u00ebt q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb \u00e7uar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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